TWENTIETH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME: GOD IS NOT FINISHED WITH YOU 08-16-26
Isaiah 56:1, 6–7 • Psalm 67 • Romans 11:13–15, 29–32 • Matthew 15:21–28
If there is one thing you learn in prison, it is how to wait. You wait for count. You wait for chow. You wait for commissary. You wait for the phone. You wait for mail. You wait for medical. You wait for somebody to answer a request. You wait for court. Some of you are waiting for release. Occasionally you wait so long for something that you begin wondering whether the Second Coming might happen first.
But there is another kind of waiting that is much harder. Waiting for your family to trust you again. Waiting for your children to answer the phone. Waiting for someone you hurt to forgive you. Waiting for a relationship to heal. Waiting to find out what will happen in court. Waiting for another chance. Waiting for God to answer a prayer you have been praying for months or years.
That is the kind of waiting we find in today’s Gospel. A Canaanite woman comes to Jesus because her daughter is suffering. She is desperate. She cries out, “Have pity on me, Lord, Son of David!” And Jesus says nothing. That may be one of the hardest sentences in the Gospel. Jesus says nothing. We know how the story ends. She did not. She had to stand inside the silence.
Some of you know exactly what that feels like. You have prayed, “God, help my family. God, take care of my kids. God, give me another chance. God, help me become a different man.” And sometimes heaven seems silent. The danger is that eventually we begin interpreting silence as rejection. Maybe God does not care. Maybe I have messed up too badly. Maybe after everything I have done, God does not want to hear from me anymore.
The woman in the Gospel refuses to believe that. She stays. The disciples want her sent away, but she stays. She does not receive the response she expected, but she stays. She does not understand what Jesus is doing, but she stays. Finally, all the fancy words disappear and her entire prayer becomes three words: “Lord, help me.”
That may be one of the greatest prayers in the Bible. You do not need a theology degree to pray it. You do not need a prayer book or the perfect vocabulary. You can pray it in a chapel or lying awake on your bunk at two in the morning. When you are angry, “Lord, help me.” When temptation comes back, “Lord, help me.” When you receive terrible news from home, “Lord, help me.”
When somebody gets under your skin and you are about to make a decision that will turn one bad day into six bad months, “Lord, help me.” When you think about your children and wonder what they think of you, “Lord, help me.” When memories return and shame tells you that you will never be anything more than your past, “Lord, help me.” Sometimes three honest words are holier than three hundred impressive ones.
Then Jesus finally says something extraordinary to this woman: “O woman, great is your faith!” Notice what He praises. He does not say, “Great is your understanding.” She did not understand. He does not say, “Great are your answers.” She did not have many answers. He says, “Great is your faith.” Why? Because she stayed.
That may be something some of you need to hear today. Great faith does not mean you never struggle, get angry with God, or wonder why your life unfolded the way it did. Sometimes great faith means that after everything that has happened, you are still here. Still talking to God. Still trying. Still getting up. Still believing that somehow your story can become different. Still refusing to walk away.
And that brings us to Saint Paul. In today’s second reading Paul says something I wish every man in prison could hear: “The gifts and the call of God are irrevocable.” Irrevocable means that God has not changed His mind about your worth. Prison has a way of reducing a human being to a number, a charge, a conviction, a sentence, or the worst decision he ever made.
The world looks at your record and says, “That is who you are.” God looks at your record and says, “That is where you have been.” There is a difference. Your crime may be part of your story. Your addiction may be part of your story. The people you hurt and the mistakes you made are part of your story. Christianity never asks us to pretend those things did not happen.
Grace is not pretending the past does not matter. Real conversion means having the courage to say, “I did this. I hurt people. I made choices that brought consequences. I cannot undo yesterday.” But then grace adds another sentence: “Yesterday does not get to decide who I become tomorrow.”
Look at the people God has worked with. Moses killed a man. David committed adultery and arranged another man’s death. Peter swore that he did not even know Jesus. Paul persecuted Christians. One of the last people Jesus spoke to before dying was a convicted criminal hanging on the cross beside Him. God has never been frightened by a bad résumé. He is interested in what happens next.
That is why one of the most dangerous things you can do in prison is waste your time. Everyone here knows how to count time. “How much did you get? How much have you done? How much do you have left?” But there is another question that may matter even more: What is the time doing to you?
Two men can serve the same five years and come out completely different. One spends five years feeding resentment while another spends five years letting God rebuild him. One spends five years blaming everybody else while another finally begins taking responsibility. One becomes harder. The other becomes wiser.
One man can leave carrying the same anger, addictions, excuses, and wounds that brought him here. Another can leave knowing how to pray, control his temper, forgive, work, listen, take responsibility, and perhaps for the first time in his life, how to love. If the state already has your time, do not give it your soul too.
Use the time. Let God use it. Maybe you cannot choose where you sleep tonight, but you can choose what kind of man gets out of that bed tomorrow morning. Maybe you cannot control your release date, but you can decide who will walk through that gate when the day finally comes. Maybe you cannot repair your family today, but you can begin becoming the man who will know how to love them better tomorrow.
There are also things happening outside these walls that you simply cannot control. That brings us back to the woman in the Gospel. She cannot fix her daughter, so she brings her daughter to Jesus. Some of you have children outside these walls. You cannot tuck them into bed tonight, drive them to school tomorrow, or protect them from every bad decision. You may not even know exactly what is happening in their lives.
But you can bring them to Jesus. Say their names to Him. You may not be able to hold your child tonight, but God can. You may not be able to fix your marriage, but you can bring it to Jesus. You may not be able to make your mother forgive you, but you can bring her to Jesus. You may not be able to undo the pain you caused, but you can bring that pain to Jesus and ask Him to begin healing what you cannot reach.
There is a difference between giving up and surrendering. Giving up says, “I do not care anymore.” Surrender says, “I care deeply, but I finally understand that I am not God.” That realization is not weakness. It is the beginning of freedom.
There are two kinds of prisons. One has concrete walls, steel doors, fences, counts, and officers. The other is built from anger, shame, hatred, addiction, resentment, fear, and regret. A man can walk out of the first prison while carrying the second one inside him for the rest of his life. And a man behind a locked door can begin becoming free.
Maybe you cannot walk through the gate today, but you can forgive someone today. You can tell the truth today. You can stop blaming everybody today. You can apologize today. You can pray today. You can ask God to begin changing the man inside the uniform today. Your life is not on hold simply because you are here. God can work right here.
Today’s first reading says that God’s house is “a house of prayer for all peoples.” All peoples. That includes people with beautiful histories and people with complicated ones. People sitting in cathedrals and people sitting in prison chapels. People who have gotten most things right and people who desperately wish they could do some things over. Nobody walks through God’s door because he has a perfect record. We walk through because God is merciful.
So if you remember nothing else today, remember this. Your record tells where you have been. It does not tell God where you can still go. Your sentence tells you how much time you were given. It does not tell you what that time can become. And when you have no idea what to do next, you already know three words: “Lord, help me.”
The Canaanite woman prayed them, and Jesus heard her. Perhaps the greatest miracle in today’s Gospel is not simply that her daughter was healed. It is that a woman everyone else considered an outsider discovered that she had never been outside the reach of God’s mercy.
Neither are you.
So stay. Stay when God seems silent. Stay when you are discouraged. Stay when you are ashamed. Stay when changing is difficult. Stay when you fall and have to begin again. Stay when you cannot see what God is doing. Sometimes the greatest act of faith is simply refusing to walk away.
The fact that you are still breathing means God can still work. The fact that you have a past means you have a story. And the fact that the story is not over means God can still write another chapter.
God is not finished with you.
Do not be finished with Him.
PRAYER
Lord,
You know everything about me. You know the things I tell people and the things I hide. You know what I have done, whom I have hurt, what I regret, what I miss, and what keeps me awake when everything around me becomes quiet.
I cannot change yesterday. Give me the courage to stop running from it, the humility to take responsibility for it, and the wisdom to learn from it. But do not let yesterday become my identity. When shame tells me I am only the worst thing I have ever done, remind me that You know my whole story.
When anger begins building another prison inside me, teach me to forgive. When I cannot control what is happening outside these walls, help me place the people I love into Your hands. Watch over my family. Protect my children. Heal the people I have hurt. Comfort those who have suffered because of my choices.
Where I am able to make things right, give me the courage to do it. Where I cannot repair what has happened, teach me to surrender it to Your mercy. Help me understand the difference between accepting responsibility for my past and allowing my past to imprison my future.
Use this time, Lord. Do not let me waste it. Make me wiser than I was when I came here, more honest, more patient, more responsible, more compassionate, and more free inside. Let the man who eventually walks out of this place be different from the man who walked in.
When I do not understand You, give me enough faith to stay. When I cannot feel You, give me enough faith to stay. When I fall, give me enough humility to get up again. When I have no beautiful words left, remind me that three are enough: Lord, help me.
Help me become the man You still see beneath everything I have done. Help me believe that mercy is greater than my past and that grace can still build something beautiful from what remains of my life.
When I begin thinking that my story has already been written, remind me:
My past is a chapter. My sentence is a chapter. This prison is a chapter. But none of them is the whole story.
You are still writing.
So today I place what remains of my story into Your hands.
God, do not let me waste it.
Amen.